Another “Ning” bites the dust, another chance to drive this important lesson home.

Way back in July 2010 (which is light years in internet time), the “create-your-own-social-network” platform Ning decided to nix its freemium model in favor of a tiered pricing plan. Even though its lowest tier, for groups under 150 members, was only $2.95 a month, many small nonprofits, civil service organizations, and other groups already strapped for cash that were using the Ning platform as their main hub were up a creek with nowhere to go. So I wrote a post about a service I was familiar with called Amazee, and called it “a winning alternative to Ning for cause-based communities.”

 

Amazee Closes

It was recently brought to my attention in the comments of that post by one Tobias Eigen of Saidia.org that Amazee will now also be shutting down, as of December 23 of this year. Tobias wrote a post about this story, and drew some lessons from it in particular for civil society organizations looking for “free” places to host their campaigns and other stuff. He feels very strongly that they should be looking to open platforms (preferably run by other civil society organizations), so as to not get shafted again.

Said Tobias,

This trend reminds me just how important it is to have civil society platforms run by civil society organizations. We need to have reliable places we own and can rely on to put our stuff and to run our campaigns to fight for our communities, our environment, the future of our world.

I couldn’t agree more, and encourage you to visit Saidia.org to read further into his points.

As an example of an open platform, Tobias points to Kabissa, a volunteer-run platform which is a “space for change in Africa,” and supported by donations from the community. While I personally love this idea, unfortunately not all nonprofits have the knowledge of how to set something like this up, which as I pointed out, was why the Nings and the Amazees existed in the first place.

An alternative open platform,  WiserEarth.org, was mentioned in the comments, and while it is an open platform, I personally found the usability rather poor and hard to navigate. There’s very little “social” about it, and most of the causes I indicated interest in hadn’t had any activity in months. I see WiserEarth (as a concept) as a step in the right direction, but they really need to work on their UX.

When looking for alternatives a couple months ago I found  Mixx, which since I began researching for this post, has change into a platform called Chime.in, a network based around interests. When researching what happened to Mixx, I found this on the Wikipedia entry:

As of October 4, 2011, the Mixx Classic website has been shut down and now only displays a “we’ll be back soon message” and a e-mail address collection form which subscribes you to a newsletter that will announce the relaunch of Mixx. As of October 8, 2011, this message still exists. All former Mixxers lost all their saved and indexed data despite being promised otherwise by the Mixx staff. All Mixx user profiles have been deleted. The profile pages return errors, do not even 301 redirect to home, and the site lost significant PageRank and potential rankings. Apparently a total fail.

As I write this, obviously the Wikipedia entry hasn’t been updated, but I’m sure it will be soon. (I’m too lazy to do it myself right now.) The concept of Chime.in itself is fine and not too unlike what the original Mixx was, but this serves as yet one more reason you should not be reliant on third-party platforms. They’re always subject to change, and like Amazee, Mixx offered no downloadable CSV or XML file, or any other way for users to preserve/archive their content.

While the majority of the emphasis in this post thus far is on civil society organizations/nonprofits, as I said in the comments of Tobias’ post, it isn’t just  those folks that need to keep this in mind.

No matter if you are nonprofit, for-profit, a public figure, musician, etc. — You need to have your own “home base.” Period.

Detroit Tigers' Home BaseI’ve personally always advised my clients, regardless of what kind of entity they are, that they needed to “own” their presence on the web and not rely on other platforms such as Facebook, though those are a nice complement to your online presence.

I don’t know how many musicians I’ve worked with who have insisted that they “didn’t need a website because Facebook/Twitter/ReverbNation/whatever was enough.” All I had to do was point to MySpace and the demise of its relevancy on the social web, asking them if they’d REALLY like to keep migrating from platform to platform all the time and not having an online “homebase.” Oh, and grab your digital knapsacks, kids, as of the other day, there’s now Google Music.

I also know there are myriad small businesses who are in this similar mentality that they don’t need a website, their presence on Facebook is “enough.” Guess what? It’s not enough. If you’ve got a presence on Facebook, Twitter, now Google+, etc. … THAT’S GREAT. Good for you for learning how to check off a box, no matter how much you might hate the “hassle” of doing it. BUT, unless you own it, you’re just squatting on free property until “the next big thing” comes along or, in the case of Amazee, that property decides to close down.

“Oh, but where to start?”

I undertand that a lot of the ins and outs of this can seem overwhelming or intimidating to people who are not “digital natives” or otherwise comfortable on the web. But it doesn’t have to be.

Rodeo ClownThere are plenty of resources out there to buy domains and host a site. I personally prefer 1and1.com for my domains and host elsewhere (though they host, too), but there’s GoDaddy, BlueHost, Rackspace, and plenty of others out there. If you fear the technical stuff or the design stuff, most of them offer “one-click installs” of various content management systems, including WordPress, Drupal, Joomla, and others. For collaboration purposes, in the place of something like Amazee, MediaWiki is usually one of the one-click installs offered, and it’s pretty popular with the nonprofits and rather straight forward.

If you are still overwhelmed and don’t know where/how to start, there’s also Page.ly, where you can set up a WordPress self-hosted site and host it, and they’ll even give you plenty of templates to get you started with a “look.”

I can’t stress enough how important it is for everyone, no matter if they’re a nonprofit, band, brand, small business, “public figure,” singing midget telegram service, rodeo clown, or WHATEVER that you can’t rely on third party, “free” service for your main online presence. It’s a relatively small investment to purchase a domain (less than $10) and host it (varies).

The best part? It’s YOUR site, that YOU own, and nobody can take it away from you.

Detroit Tigers photo via heidigoseek, rodeo clown via Bill Gracey.

Got a lot of luggage in your name? Here’s your online baggage claim.

Country sensation Miranda Lambert has been taking the world by storm, becoming the first country artist in the 47-year history of the album charts to have her first four albums debut at No. 1. Her first single off her new album, Four the Record, is entitled “Baggage Claim,” which she performed at the 45th Annual Country Music Association Awards recently, just moments prior to taking home “Female Vocalist of the Year” for the second year in a row.

This no-nonsense, “kiss-off song” about a woman liberating herself from the emotional burdens of a no-good, soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend, is a light-hearted approach to a situation that is often most vocalized by men:

At the baggage claim
you got a lot of luggage in your name
When you hit the ground check the lost and found
cuz it aint my problem now I can’t carry it all
I got a lot of troubles on my own
Its all over the yard and in the trunk of the car
I’m packing it in, so come and get it

Regardless of our gender, yeah, we’ve all been there once or twice. Just admit it.

While I’m still in preparation to launch That Damn Music Blog,  I thought I’d share this wonderfully amusing and cathartic site I found recently called EmotionalBagCheck.com. (Think of this post as a preview to the kind of content you’ll find at TDMB.)

Emotional Bag Check is a brilliant site powered by the API of Grooveshark (but created independently) that basically allows you to check your emotional baggage online and tell an anonymous collective your problems. When other people read it, they can send you a song that they feel appropriate.  If you’ve got no baggage to share, you can pick someone else’s up and send them a song to (hopefully) make them feel better.

Emotional Bag Check 1

I personally love this concept, so I decided to try it. Hesitant, I decided to pick someone else’s baggage up first, and this is what I got:

Emotional Bag Check 2

Well, OK, so I’m probably not the most original person here but the first song that popped into my head was “Comfortably Numb,” only not the original by Pink Floyd, but by Dar Williams with Ani DiFranco on backing vocals. So that’s what I sent the anonymous, non-feeling person, with a note:

Emotional Bag Check 3

If I could sum up “why I love music” in a nutshell, it would be one word: therapy. Simple as that. In fact, not only is music therapy an established profession these days, but back in the days of Beethoven, doctors used to prescribe music to people to lift their moods. (I read that somewhere the other day and wish I could remember where in order to cite it. I can’t, but if you can find the link for me, let me know in the comments, thanks.) However, you don’t need to be a genius to know that music is medicine for the soul. You just need to be human. Which, if you’re reading this, I’m sure you are.

Anyway, so I decided it was only fair I dump some of my own baggage at EmotionalBagCheck.com after lifting someone else’s. After I “dropped off my baggage” (so to speak), I was greeted with a message that linked me, the user, to appropriate sources if I felt I was in danger or in need of help right away:

(Note that this site is not the product of any kind of corporate funding to do PSAs or whatever, but rather a single person with a conscience. Frankly, it makes me feel good to know there are still a few of us out there.)

I’m not going to get into the details of  the baggage I dropped off, but literally within minutes, before I even finished this blog post, I got a response from someone with some heartfelt advice and a song I had never heard, from a band I normally wouldn’t listen to, let alone would have suspected would write something congruent to my situation. And you know what? It helped.

I’ve come to the conclusion that a service like EmotionalBagCheck.com is way overdue. The closest thing we’ve had until this was radio dedications a lâ Delilah, and while I love Delilah, she’s not quite as instantaneous nor as interactive as the interwebs. I thank Robyn Overstreet for making this giant, anonymous, ethereal support group on the web happen, and I encourage y’all to give it a try, and let me know here in the comments how it works out.

In the meantime, I think I need to make myself more familiar with the catalogue of Linkin Park.

I’ll show you my ticker if you show me yours.

Seems like the new “ticker” on Facebook is the one new feature everybody loves to hate. Well, most people, anyway. The past couple days, while everybody on Facebook is trying to figure out what shows up in whose ticker, how to stop it, etc. I’m absolutely LOVING it.

Maybe it’s because I’ve got the maturity of a 13 y/o boy, but it seems to me that “show up in my ticker” is the new “poke” — the latest innocent Facebook feature that just sounds, well … dirty. This morning I was having a BLAST with ticker innuendos. So much that I made a status update and invited others to play.

Of course, I brought it over to Twitter, too. Here are some others I’ve come up with:

“I don’t want that to show up in my ticker, I better test it first…”

“Every time I cook that for dinner, it shows up in everyone’s ticker!”

“Lately I’ve noticed a lot of my friends are taking screen grabs and comparing each other’s tickers.”

“Son, I told you if you make that face in your profile picture too much, it’ll show up in everyone’s ticker … FOREVER!”

I recently introduced my friend Jackie, who loves sock monkeys, to The Monkey Shop. She “liked” their page the other day, and this morning, I couldn’t help but notice that all her monkey business kept showing up in my ticker!

So far my favorite from a friend is from my friend Mike:

So we had a few drinks, yadda yadda, long story short, I showed up in her ticker the next morning.

I’ve been having WAY too much fun with this.

Is this immature? ABSOLUTELY.

But you know what? I don’t care (and neither should you). Suddenly, social media is fun again, and I couldn’t be happier.

Now it’s your turn — show me your ticker jokes, and I’ll show you mine!

Don’t fish in my friends and I won’t pee in your pool.

While everybody’s having their usual post-Facebook-changes anyeurism, where they kick and scream about a service they don’t pay for making changes as if there isn’t anything actually significant going on in the world, I’d like to take a moment and talk about the privacy issue.

No, not the usual “Facebook just changed/simplified/complicated/sold-your-shoe-size-to-the-government” privacy issue that occurs once in a while, but of a different kind. The kind that I consider a violation between friends.

The issue I’m talking about here is “friend fishing.” It’s when somebody goes through your list of friends, which you’ve made visible on the side of your profile, and friend requests people that they really have no business “friending.” People who you KNOW there is no humanly possible way that they could actually know this person except through you.

I don’t want to, and I’m not going to name names here, but this has happened on more than a few occasions with my musician friends, however recently it happened in a slightly different context.

I became aware of this over a year ago, when suddenly in the Facebook stream I saw something like,

“[Your Netiquette-Unaware Musician Friend] is now friends with [your third grade teacher, 5 sorority sisters, 1 coworker, 2 of your friends in Hong Kong, and 7 people in some other kind of completely irrelevant context].”

THIS IS NOT COOL.

Sure, I know that the other person on the other side of the friend request is not obligated to accept a friend request. But many of those people blindly accept friend reqs from anybody with whom they have just one person in common, not knowing any better, and/or just not caring, and/or are way too trusting.

However, to the person whose friends list you are fishing, THIS FEELS LIKE A VIOLATION. A violation of trust between real “friends,” a violation of privacy, a violation of boundaries.

When this started becoming a pattern, I decided to just avoid having that awkward “that’s really not cool” conversation with perpetrators and threw everybody in my “music world” into a list of people who can’t see my other friends. Maybe I was lazy, maybe I just didn’t want to have to keep having that conversation. Either way, it seemed like an easy fix. Many people in that world of mine simply AREN’T social-media-etiquette savvy. They don’t know any better, many are all about the “friend collecting,” and Lord knows I get REALLY sick of being on this soapbox.

I’m not saying all musicians do this, mind you. I’m just saying what I’ve noticed among my network has been mostly people in my “music world,” so to speak. What prompted me to write this was a little earlier, I suddenly saw an update in my stream that looked like

“[Guy You've Known Since Middle School] is now friends with [Your Recently-Found, Long-Lost, Very-Close Friend (Who Happens to be a Musician) and Said Guy Remembers You Talking About Her, Which Probably is What Prompted the Subsequent Friending."]

I literally said out loud, “Um, WHAT?!”

Look — THAT’S JUST NOT COOL.

I immediately made it so that NONE of my friends can see who else I’m friends with. But I shouldn’t have to do that. If I let you see my friends list, I am trusting that you’re not going to fish through it and abuse it. I leave it open for the real situations where people I know might go through it and find other people that we actually do have in common, like were in the same high school class, ski club, whatever.

Yeah, okay, so this post is likely a few months too late, with all the newfangled friends-filtering options Facebook has rolled out recently, and let’s not forget the advent of Google Plus and their “Circles” concept, all of which theoretically should solve this problem.

Theoretically.

Look, I'm being metaphorical and literal here simultaneously!But this raises a couple questions.

1) Who is going to take the time and go through their already-established, pretty-darn-big network they’ve curated, and meticulously put people into certain piles? I’m not an OCD-in-training 7 y/o separating my Skittles by color because “they have to be that way.” I like all my Skittles to be in the same bag, and although I like to “taste the rainbow” and see all the pretty colors mixed together, I also know that some flavors just don’t mix well together. (Oh, the metaphor… I’m SO deep, I know.)

2) The bigger question it raises is trust. Yes, trust between friends and respect of privacy and boundaries, but I’m talking about a bigger trust here. Trust among ourselves as a society.

If we can’t trust our friends to respect the fences we’ve put around other areas of our lives so much that we have to rely on The Powers That Be of social networks to enable us to tighten those fences… are we, as a society, REALLY ready for what we’ve gotten ourselves into, technologically? Socially? Psychologically?

I don’t think we are, honestly. Some circles aren’t made to be broken, some fences aren’t meant to be scaled, and some lines aren’t meant to be crossed.

I would love to hear your thoughts.

 

Photo 1 by bodog Dan, pic 2 is album art from Depeche Mode’s Violator, and if you don’t know what pic 3 is, you’re reading this from some other planet. 

A new blog & another one launching soon — here’s an ebook in the meantime.

Two Things:

The other night I was weeding through my files on my hard drive and found a project I forgot about — it was a little ebook based on this post I wrote way back in 2009, wherein I compare water skiing and social media, and what you can learn about both. It was about 75% finished, so tonight I finished it. It’s short, a very quick read. I know I mentioned I was tired of writing about social media, but this was already written. I just compiled it into an ebook “just because.”  So here, enjoy:

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Another blog?

Also, I mentioned a long time ago that I was going to be publishing some of my writing elsewhere on the web, and I’ve been writing a lot and stocking up on stuff to publish, which is sort of one reason why it’s taken so long. (That, and because I’m just a really bad procrastinator when it comes to my own stuff.)

Anyway, I’ve had some crazy stuff happen in my life, and I’ll be publishing stories about many of these things that actually happened over at thisactuallyhappened.posterous.com … so head on over there if you’re so inclined. The first post is up, and it’s about sushi, stripping, and Indian food. All names are changed to protect the guilty parties, and I must warn you that while nothing is (or ever will be) “NSFW,” I don’t recommend your kids read that blog. Any and all feedback is appreciated, and no, that is NOT a “professional” blog by any means (like I had to clear that up). Consider it as me just showing a different side of my writing.

… and yet, another one on the way!

OH by the way — I made a New Year’s resolution to finally get my damn music blog off the ground. Life got in the way, then I reconsidered, then I put it off, and put it off … and I’m sure that by now, many people are doubting that I’d ever actually launch it. Well, guess what? IT WILL BE UP SOON. Like, very soon. For realz. So go on over and bookmark that damn music blog now, and I’ll let you know when it’s up. Got stuff in the hopper, finalizing an editorial calendar, etc… just have a few final things before v1.0 finally lifts off. (It won’t be as pretty as I want it, but I’ve got someone working on that.)

As for this blog, I’ll be writing here from time to time about technology-related things, but my energies are going to spent on those two plus a couple other projects I’ve got going on behind the scenes. But I’m not shutting this blog down, I’m just shifting my attention elsewhere.

OK, so that was more than two things. Ah well.

Anything in particular you’d like to read here (or thither, or yon)? Let me know.

kthxbai

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